A Letter to my Daughter…

Julia and Baby Mason

You are so incredibly smart, beautiful and determined.

You know no limits and amaze me everyday with your curiosity and wonderment of the simple beauty the world holds.

I hope we give you the space and acceptance to become whoever you wish to be, and the guidance to listen to your intuition.

My wish for you is that you are kind. 

Kind to yourself, kind to others and kind to those who are very different from you.

I love you baby girl.

*Photo Credit Courtney Kattler Photography

 

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Baby Mason has Arrived! Here is How We Handled the First Month with a Newborn…

the First Month with a Newborn

Baby Mason has arrived which is why I haven’t posted in so long. She is over a month old now and was born on January 14th. Her name is Elizabeth Catherine and she is a beautiful tiny little lady. She has brought us a lot of joy as well as a large lack of sleep! I wish I could describe the feelings of becoming a mother but it is literally impossible. The best description I have heard is that it is like watching your heart and soul walk around outside of your body. She is obviously not walking yet, but you get the idea. There is a big piece of myself that I feel is completely out of my control, yet intricately aligned with the true meaning of existence and love.

While extraordinary rewarding, being a new parent is not  always glamorous. I know this site is called “Positively Glamorous”, but I don’t want you to think my life is always perfect as that would not be authentic.

As an extreme multi-tasker and someone known to hold multiple jobs and internships at once while juggling a full course load at one point, I thought this would be like my previous experiences, challenging but very doable. Nope..not.. so much. The “It takes a village to raise a child” quote is absolute whole truth. While I thought it would be nice for my mom to come into town from Ohio to help me (which she did), and I thought it would be lovely if my mother-in-law came out at some point and cooked (which she did), it wasn’t just nice, it was absolutely amazing and necessary. To my friends who brought me food, and to my mom(s) the gratitude I feel towards you brings me to tears.

Future moms out there, please, line up help before you have your child, even if it is paid. Pack your freezer with meals beforehand. Those first few weeks it is absolutely essential you take care of yourself and have proper nutrition and some sort of rest so you can heal and take care of your baby. I had some help, and I had a relatively routine all natural birth and breastfeeding came to me naturally (all things I am extremely thankful for) yet I still felt very defeated at times with a case of the “baby blues.” There were tears, lots of them and wondering if it ever gets easier. Here is the “Positive” part, it does, which is why I had the time to write this today. To all my friends who don’t have kids, I didn’t just say all that to terrify you. Just about everyone else is going to simply tell you “They are worth it and being a parent is amazing” and it is. Just know during some of those darker times you are absolutely not alone.

Please keep in mind I’m not a parenting expert, I’m simply a new mom working my way on this adventure. Your way of parenting may be completely different and that is perfectly ok too!

Here are some of the ways we handled the first month.

  1. Accepted help from family and friends.
  2. Following our intuition from the birth process to parenthood, meaning we did things the way we felt were best for our family, not just what people were suggesting we do. Similarly to planning a wedding, everyone has an opinion or a suggestion, listen to it, then do what you and your partner feel is best.
  3. Getting outside. Part of the hardest part for me was the solitude the first month. Since it is Winter and flu season, our pediatrician strongly recommends that the baby goes out as little as possible especially the first 28 days. When family and friends weren’t around it got really lonely and cabin fever set in. On the days it was a bit warmer and we could take a walk in the sunshine, it did wonders for my mood.
  4. Practicing gratitude. There are so many moments of feeling completely overwhelmed that sometimes you forget how blessed you are to have a healthy, perfect, living, breathing tiny human that you made right in front of you. So many women would do anything to have the ability to be pregnant and give birth to their very own child. Never forget that you created a miracle. Thank all those that have helped you out during this time as well so they know how much it means to you.
  5. Snuggling. My favorite part of being a new mom is holding Elizabeth and breathing in that amazing newborn sent while snuggling with her.
  6. Not forgetting, “You are going to miss this.” As trying as these times can be when I get upset I try to remember the country song by Trace Adkins, You’re Gonna Miss This  whether you are a country music fan or not, this is simply a season of your life and it is going to go by so fast. Enjoy these precious moments.
  7. Having a support network, even if it is a virtual one. Most of my friends or people I know that have children are in my home state. In order to keep in touch with them, I invited them to a parenting Facebook group my friend created, this has been a huge help for much needed advice on new motherhood adventures.
  8. Sleeping when the baby sleeps. Sleep is a basic human need that turns to gold when you have a child. Sleep when you can, but don’t count how many hours of actual sleep you got. It will just make you more upset.
  9.  Taking time for two other very important relationships: the one with yourself and one with your spouse or partner. Do one thing each day for yourself, even if it is just a shower or reading a book you love for 5 minutes (right now I’m reading The Fringe Hours.) This will make you a better mom and partner.This powerful video explains this perfectly. Also, don’t forget, as overwhelmed as you are, your partner is as well. This is all new to both of you and the best thing you can do for each other is be encouraging. Take time to show affection to your partner and care for your relationship. The better your partnership, the easier it will make parenting a team effort.

 

I hope this information is helpful to you whether you are a new mom or your future child is just a twinkle in your eye. 🙂

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Baby Mason’s Shabby Chic Nursery is Complete!

Baby Masons Nursery Positively Glamorous

Baby Mason’s shabby chic nursery is just waiting for her to arrive, and let’s hope she really is a girl because she has a very feminine bedroom and wardrobe! Here was the inspiration for the room. The goal was to have a “shabby chic” minimalistic environment.

A huge thank you to our dear family and friends, many of the items in the room are from them, were transported by them or are handmade with love. We couldn’t have done it without you!

Baby Masons Nursery Positively Glamorous

 

The items within this nursery were found at the following places:

    1. Paint: Sherwin Williams Silvermist
    2. Crib: Amazon Delta Children Emery 4-in-1 Crib, White
    3. Wardrobe: My Great Grandma Julia’s
    4. Handles on Wardrobe: Anthropologie
    5. Changing table: Old converted dresser
    6. Cubbies: Target
    7. Trunk: Flea market
    8. Fashion framed images: Yard sale
    9. Bird mirror: Yard Sale
    10. Eiffel Tower: Marshalls
    11. Blue birdcage: Purchased from a vintage themed wedding sale
    12. Lights for birdcage: Marshalls
    13. Paris Lamp: Marshalls
    14. Outfits shown: Handmade, Pottery Barn for Kids and Target
    15. Chandelier: Ikea
    16. Faux fur rug: Ikea
    17. Polka dot containers: Target
    18. Crib sheet and skirt: Ikea

Click here to view this nursery on Project Nursery!

 

As I write this post, I cannot help but to share with you this beautiful, nostalgic song that fits the whimsical theme of the nursery perfectly. Although it is called “Lost Boy” I think we can all relate to the wish to return to Neverland.

Enjoy!

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My Favorite Pregnancy Items

Being pregnant certainly is not simple…but there are some items that have actually made it much easier. Here is my list of favorites-I hope they help you as much as they have helped me!

To purchase any of the items on this page, simply select the image and you will be directed to the item on Amazon.*

1.

Leachco Snoogle Total Body Pillow, White

This pillow is a total lifesaver! I can’t express how helpful it is. There is nothing more important to a mother-to-be than a good nights rest. It is important to have your belly, head, back and legs supported and this pillow does all four so you don’t need to keep adjusting several small pillows to get the same affect.

Within the packaging there is a helpful guide that also gives you other options and ways to use the pillow, whether you are lying down or sitting up. While pregnant, it is also important to sleep on your left side for optimum blood flow to the baby, and for some just not sleeping on your back or stomach can be a struggle. This is absolutely my favorite pregnancy purchase.

2.
Stretch Marks and Scars Cream – Best Body Moisturizer to Prevent and Reduce Old & New Marks – Natural & Organic for Pregnancy – Also for Men – 4 oz – By Body Merry

Excuse me while I go knock on 5 pieces of wood, but as of yet, and I am 8 month’s pregnant, I still do not have any stretch marks! This lotion is amazing, and I have gone through at least 3 jars of it, but I think it is well worth it! Just be sure to apply it liberally to not only the front of your stomach, but the sides as well and any where else you feel like you are expanding. By no means am I a medical professional, but this lotion has worked for me.

 

3.
ReMEDies Cool Mist Humidifier Ultrasonic Humidifier “No Noise” Plus Aroma Diffuser – 7 Color Cozy LED Lights, Auto Shut-Off

For whatever reason, pregnancy comes with its share of odd symptoms, many of which no one talks about. One of these symptoms is sinus pressure. It is very common to feel like you have a cold all the time and constantly get bloody noses. Those with small sinuses to begin with are even more prone to these symptoms. This humidifier is not only helpful for mom while pregnant, it is also extremely helpful for the nursery after the baby is born to keep humidity in the room. Bonus: There is a compartment for your favorite essential oil and this humidifier has the option to provide a soft light in many neat colors! Just be sure to check with your practicioner prior to using essential oils. Also, if you have pets, some essential oils affect animals negatively.

 

4.
KOYO Reduced Sodium Garlic and Pepper Ramen Made with Organic Noodles, 2.1 Ounce (Pack of 12)

Pregnancy comes with all sorts of strange food cravings. For me, I could indulge in macaroni and cheese and ramen soup every single day if I could. However, we all know how bad for you the typical ramen can be. It is full of MSG and many harmful chemicals. I knew there had to be a better alternative and ran into KOYO ramen at my local health food store. It tastes even better than normal ramen and is much better for you! The noodles are even organic!

 

5.
Secrets of the Baby Whisperer: How to Calm, Connect, and Communicate with Your Baby

I asked a friend who has been a nanny for years what her favorite baby items are and what has been most helpful to her. She highly recommended this particular book. I haven’t experienced it for myself yet, but from what I hear the most important thing you can do is get your infant on a schedule, and this book helps you get there.

 

6.
What to Expect the First Year

I’m pretty sure you are never actually “ready” for what is to come when you have an infant. However, reading this book while pregnant is certainly eye-opening. A friend at work told me she really wished she read it prior to the baby being born because there would have been so much she would of been less stressed about had she known ahead of time. I used post-it notes to highlight the pages I felt would be great to reference back to when in a pinch.

 

7.
What to Expect When You’re Expecting, 4th Edition

This book is a classic mother-to-be favorite and I found it very helpful. I love how each chapter highlights the month you are in of your pregnancy and provides helpful tips as well as calms your worries. This book is very informative, yet not opinionated like some others can be and allows you to take in all the information and than choose what is right for you and your child.

 

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Maternity Photoshoot

Maternity Photoshoot Positively Glamorous

To be completely 100% honest, I have been pretty self-conscious this entire pregnancy. I find other pregnant women extremely beautiful, I just have a hard time with my body changing so dramatically. I truly think that every life is a gift from God and am incredibly grateful for the experience, and I decided if I didn’t find a way to capture these moments I may regret it.

Plus I just loooove looking at the photos from when my mom was pregnant with my brother and I. There is something really special about seeing yourself as simply a twinkle in your mother’s eye- it reminds you what a delicate treasure life is.

Being that we are extremely budget conscious and I am creative and have photo editing experience, Patrick, my husband is very technical, we decided to try to do the maternity photos ourselves. It turned out to be wonderful because I am so comfortable with Patrick I can let down my guard, and it was lovely to see how he “viewed” me through the lens. So kudos to Patrick for his wonderful photography skills, this was a great experience that I think we will get to look back on fondly for the rest of our lives. <3

P.S. If you would like to create some leg warmers like the ones shown below, the tutorial will be published October 26th!

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Baby Mason is a Girl!!!

We are super excited to announce our little one is a girl! She was supper wiggly during the ultrasound and would not look at the camera at all- but after some rolling around we were finally able to see her pretty little face and even watch her yawn! What a treat! Since we now know the sex of the baby we can begin planning what her room will look like! I decided to share with you some of our inspiration.

Baby nursery inspiration
Created by Ella Rose at http://projectnursery.com/author/ellarose/
nursery inspiration
Found on http://www.hgtv.com/shows/fixer-upper/a-1940s-vintage-fixer-upper-for-first-time-homebuyers-pictures
nursery inspiration
Found on www.rhbabyandchild.com
Nursery inspiration
Found on https://www.etsy.com/listing/218274728/hand-painted-12-wedding-globe-shabby
nursery inspiration
Found on http://www.charlottemagazine.com/Home-Garden/April-2009/Hey-Kids/

P.S. The outfit in the header photo above was my grandmothers and the Eiffel Tower snow globe was a gift from my best friend. I’m all about bringing old items with new, especially when celebrating life-changing occurrences such as this! It also was incorporated into the baby shower invitations.

vintage themed baby shower invitations

 

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